Well not in those exact terms...but I could see it coming.
When someone is shocked when you use the word "sensual" then you have an immediate response as to what the people think of you- Boring.
Recently, I discovered that people have put me in a box with two letters-PP. Actually its unfair to even call them two letters, as it is a repetition of one letter.
PP- Politics, Polite...... That is not a complaint, but I wish that people would see me as more than that. I imagine my parents would be happy that I am not being cast in a negative light.
However, being considered an intellectual conversationista as a friend puts it is not flattering, when you know that you can have fun and do have fun outside the bounds of politics, books and bourgeois expectations.
Do I like to have fun? YES! and I have too much of it sometimes. However, I think that everything has to be balanced out. For example, I will frown upon anyone who seems to think its okay to objectify me as a sexual object. That does not mean that I am not in touch with my sensuality, it just means that I would rather people see a complete picture before they pick and choose what they would want from me. There are some societal stigmas that I very much try to distance myself with. And to that, I try to not accept being called pet names that I feel belittle me eg. shawty, mama, or for the Swahili speakers Supu. I want respect, because I give respect. Respect is what I think is important, and my inner being demands it. Therefore, if I seem too serious, or angry at times, it is because I feel like there is some lack of respect.
So if I am polite, its not because I don't want to yell or scream, its because thats who I am. Politics are my passion, so I can't give that up...
I am strong, and I have been raised to be strong. It is something that I am proud of. However, in this day and age, this is become a bad trait to possess. There is a whole set of social norms that are very disrespectful to women...but we are forced by acceptance to see it as a good thing...or a compliment
but all that does not make me boring, if anything, it makes me interesting ( Just ask my classmates in my political Science classes- )